Self-care is a term that is often thrown around a lot, but what does it really mean? In today’s busy world, some people seem to really struggle with self-care. They feel overwhelmed, depressed, anxious or maybe they do not feel like they themselves are worth taking care of. Whatever the case may be, if we want to live a life that we feel good about, self-care is fundamental.
As far as I understand it, self-care is any activity that you do to take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. It can be something as simple as taking a break from work to go for a brief walk, or something more involved like going to therapy. Fundamentally, self-care is knowing how to take care of yourself (the opposite of learned helplessness) rather than relying on others to save you.
There are many benefits to engaging in self-care. It can help you reduce stress, improve your mood and health. It can allow you to feel more independent and self-reliant. It can help you sleep better, improve your relationships with others and yourself and be more productive in your work.
There are many different ways to practice self-care. Some common activities include:
Exercise
Eating healthy foods
Getting enough sleep
Spending time with people who make you feel good
Practicing relaxation techniques, such as stretching or meditation
Reading
Taking a bath or shower
Going for a walk or bike ride
Listening to music
Doing something creative, such as painting or writing
It is important to find self-care activities that work for you and that you enjoy doing. There is no one right way to do self-care. What matters is that you are taking some time for yourself each and every day to relax, recharge and maybe even feel inspired.
If you are struggling to find time for self-care, here are a few tips that I have found helpful:
Schedule it into your day. Just like you would schedule any other important appointment, make sure to schedule some time for self-care each day. For example, I schedule in an hour of reading time each day (no matter how busy I am) because I know that I will feel less happy and more mentally scattered if I do not read.
Make it a priority. Self-care should be something that you do for yourself, even if you don't feel like it.
Don't be afraid to say no. If you are feeling overwhelmed, it is okay to say no to commitments that will take away from your self-care time. If others can not support you in doing what you need to do to take care of yourself, maybe it would be good for you to reevaluate the relationship.
Be patient. It takes time to find self-care activities that work for you. Don't be discouraged if you don't find the right thing right away. You can start by just taking a fifteen minute walk by yourself a few times a week.
Self-care is an important part of a mentally and physically healthy lifestyle. When we are stressed out or less healthy, self-care is usually the first thing to go out the window. By taking some amount of time for yourself each day to do the things you enjoy, you will improve your physical, emotional, and mental health. An additional benefit of self-care is that you will also prove to yourself that you can do it, which will increase your confidence and feelings of self-worth.