Mental Health Matters: Supporting Emotional Wellbeing and Recovery

Times are tough. Things are quite precarious. We all face the difficulties of economic and social instability. We are just beginning to wrap our brains around the toll the Covid pandemic has taken on our world. As a result, the topic of mental health has become increasingly more prevalent. Social media platforms highlight the positive aspects of life, yet many people are experiencing anxiety, depression and trauma. With the rise of mental health issues around the world, it is important for each individual and governments to now prioritize emotional wellbeing and recovery.

The pressures of contemporary life can make it difficult for individuals to process their feelings and emotions. This can result in the abundance of distraction available online, including social media, streaming platforms, video games, pornography, the news or even just surfing the internet aimlessly. While these activities can provide entertainment and a temporary distraction, they also have the potential to severely exacerbate mental health issues. Therefore, it is even more important now than ever, for individuals to dedicate time to self-reflection, meditation, mindfulness, and self-care practices that allow them to address and understand their emotional needs fully. (Tomorrow I will be sending out a post on how to engage in self-care.)

One major aspect of emotional wellbeing is dealing with trauma and its consequences, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). In my work with clients, PTSD has been the main mental illness causing condition I have come across. We all deal with PTSD in some form now as a result of the Covid pandemic. Individuals can recover from traumas by seeking professional help, attending support groups, and practicing mindfulness while meditating, yoga, or through journaling. Trauma healing requires time and patience, but individuals do have the power to feel better through the support of loved ones, seeking therapy, and engaging in self-care routines.

Mental health awareness and support are essential not only for the individual affected but also for the people around them. While introverted individuals enjoy their time alone, they still need to prioritize social connections in their lives and form healthy relationships. Similarly, society needs to eliminate the stigma around anxiety and depression once and for all. It is not uncommon at all for individuals to feel overwhelmed, depressed and anxious- especially considering the challenges that the world throws our way these days.

As I wrote about in my earlier essay on gaslighting, it also is important to establish a conversation around gaslighting awareness and the importance of seeking professional help. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, or sanity. It is a significant root cause of mental health issues and anxiety. Thus everyone must call out gaslighters and develop healthier coping mechanisms such as therapy, self-care, and mindfulness, or just simply seeking the support of friends and family.

Mental health matters now more than ever and should be a priority in an individual's life. With the right support from friends, family, and mental health practitioners, individuals can take care of their emotional wellbeing and achieve full recovery from traumas or mental health disorders. While it may be a long journey, taking the first step is crucial, whether that's seeking therapy, meditating, relaxing more (without distractions), going for walks, eating better or journaling to process and regulate emotions. The key takeaway is for individuals to make small changes in their daily lives and hold themselves accountable for their emotional wellbeing. With support and consistency we can recover from mental illness and live a more mentally healthy (stable) life.

If you would like to begin working on your mental health, please feel free to schedule a session with me.

Spiritual Bypassing

Spiritual bypassing is a term used to describe a phenomenon where individuals use spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid facing and dealing with their emotional and psychological issues. It is a common defense mechanism that people use to avoid confronting pain, trauma, or difficult emotions. The saying, “That which we try not to think about or feel only grows larger,” is all too relevant when it comes to spiritual bypassing. As a Mental Health Counselor and Mindfulness Instructor, I try to help people avoid this problematic pitfall.

The concept of spiritual bypassing was first introduced by psychologist John Welwood in the 1980s. He observed that some individuals use spirituality as a way to bypass their emotional growth and remain trapped in a stagnant state of consciousness. Since then, many spiritual teachers, academics, philosophers and psychotherapists have explored the concept and its effects on individuals and spiritual communities. One of my favorites is called “Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism,” by Chogyam Trungpa.

Spiritual bypassing can manifest in various forms. Some people may use meditation or prayer as a way to escape from their problems, while others may use the teachings of their faith or spirituality to justify their negative behaviors or beliefs. Some may even use spiritual practices to feel superior or special, further avoiding their underlying issues. .

One of the critical aspects of spiritual bypassing is the avoidance of negative emotions. Instead of facing the pain, fear, emptiness or sadness- people may use positive affirmations or spiritual teachings to deny or suppress their emotions. This denial can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, anger, depression, as well as physical health issues.

Another consequence of spiritual bypassing is often the inability to form genuine connections with others. When individuals use spirituality to avoid their emotions, they may struggle to empathize with others' struggles or understand their own emotions. This leads to a lack of intimacy and genuine connection in their relationships, which can cause them to engage in spiritual bypassing even more. As a result, a person can feel dissociated from themselves and the world around them.

Spiritual bypassing can also create a spiritual community that is based on superficial positivity rather than authentic connection, acceptance and growth. It can lead to a culture where individuals are ostracized or shamed for expressing negative emotions or challenging spiritual norms, further perpetuating the cycle of avoidance.

When individuals use spirituality to escape from their emotional and psychological struggles, they can become disconnected from themselves. This can have far-reaching effects on their mental, physical, and spiritual well-being, as well as their relationships and connections with others. Recognizing and addressing spiritual bypassing for what it is, is crucial to fostering healthy relationships and authentic individual growth.

Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism