Gaslighting 101

So what exactly is gaslighting? We hear this term thrown around a lot these days, so I thought I would take a quick deep dive into what gaslighting actually is.

Gaslighting is a term used to describe a form of psychological manipulation in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, or sanity. The term originates from a 1938 play, "Gas Light," in which a husband manipulates his wife into doubting her own sanity by dimming the gas lights in their home while denying that the light level has changed.

Gaslighting behavior can range from subtle and insidious to overt and dangerous. It is often employed by abusers, narcissists, sociopaths, and cult leaders to gain control over their victims by distorting reality and undermining their sense of self. This can take many different forms, including lying, denying, deflecting, minimizing, and blaming, as well as withholding information, love, and support.

One of the most insidious effects of gaslighting is that it can cause the targeted person to doubt their own grip on reality. Individuals may begin to second-guess their own perceptions, memories, and experiences, and may feel they are losing their sense of self. This can lead them to question their own judgment, feel isolated, lose a sense of self-worth and strangely enough become even more dependent on the gaslighter for validation and support.

Gaslighters often target specific vulnerabilities in their victims, such as low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, or trauma, to more effectively manipulate them. They may also use subtle cues and microaggressions to gradually erode their victim's confidence and self-worth over time. The effects of gaslighting can be profound and long-lasting, often leading to anxiety, depression, insomnia, and even post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). This in turn has a profound effect on a person’s health.

One of the most important things to remember about gaslighting is that it is a form of abuse. It is not the victim's fault, and it is not a reflection of their worth or intelligence. Gaslighting is a dangerous and insidious form of psychological manipulation that can have profound and long-lasting effects on people. It is important to recognize the signs of gaslighting and to seek help and support if you suspect that you or someone you know is being gaslit. By raising awareness about gaslighting, we can help make people more aware and hopefully prevent this form of abuse in the future.

Destructive Logic and Mental Health

Destructive logic is something that individuals often engage in without knowing it. It can have a significant impact on mental health. Destructive logic is a cycle of negative thoughts and beliefs that can make individuals feel helpless and trapped. Destructive logic is characterized by a focus on negative experiences, events, and feelings, and an inability to see any positive aspects or outcomes (negative self-talk). The daily use of destructive logic can lead to a variety of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and even suicidal ideation.

Destructive logic can often feel like the norm. Negative thoughts can be so pervasive that they begin to feel like facts. When this takes over, individuals may start to believe that they have no control over their circumstances. This can lead to a sense of hopelessness, meaninglessness and despair, which will further exacerbate mental health issues.

Someone who has experienced one or many traumatic events, may engage in destructive logic without knowing it. They may have developed the belief that they will never be able to recover from the trauma. They may focus on the negative aspects of the event, such as the hurt and fear they experienced, and overlook any positive outcomes or personal growth that may have resulted from the experience. This often will lead a person to feelings of helplessness, isolation, nihilism and major depression.

Destructive logic can effect how individuals interpret and respond to situations. It can result in a tendency to catastrophize, where individuals assume the worst-case scenario will always occur. If we catastrophize often, this may cause a person to live a life filled with chronic anxiety, panic attacks, depression and poor decision making about their life. Catastrophizing is a common thing people do when they live with unresolved trauma.

Mental health professionals often use cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help individuals with destructive thinking patterns. CBT helps individuals learn to identify and challenge these negative thoughts, replacing them with more positive ones. This can help individuals to see the world in a less negative light, improve their coping skills, and develop more positive self-talk, ultimately improving their mental health.

Mindfulness is an additional way to help those who deal with destructive logic. By becoming more aware of our thought patterns we can gain more control over navigating our attention into the present moment when our thoughts become too negative. By being present in the here and right now, we can reduce the negative effects that destructive logic can have upon our lives. 

Destructive logic can have a profound impact on our mental health. In my work as a mental health counselor, I see how destructive logic causes individuals to hold negative beliefs, feelings of hopelessness, and a lack of control over their circumstances. This often leads people into major depression. But this way of thinking and feeling can be managed and minimized. Identifying and challenging these negative thoughts through counseling, support, journaling, meditation and other forms of self-care can be incredibly helpful in overcoming destructive logic and its impact on our mental health.